Looking back on my ascension journey so far, (that began in earnest in January of 2017) and all the things that have been revealed to me in that process, I am constantly being reminded of how important forgiveness is on this journey. In fact, I have come to understand that as you go higher and higher into the light, you are also shown more darkness. Not because darkness is where you want to be, but because in order to be healed, to become whole, individually and collectively, which this ascension process is all about, we must shine our lights into the darkest corners of our psyche, as well as the world, and bring what’s hiding there out into the light. This is one of the reasons why we are having so many things come out into the light lately, such as the disclosure of the sexual abuses that have been covered up and kept under wraps for so long, and many aspects of the pandemic situation are also contributing to our awakening and disclosure on many levels. For us all to heal, we must confront all the ghosts that are hiding in our closets. We must all do this on an individual level, and humanity must do this collectively also, because we’re all in this together, what affects one affects us all, there is no separation.
It is understandable that as we begin to awaken and realize how much oppression and how many misconceptions we have been laboring under, that we will feel a lot of anger. I have felt a lot of anger myself, and that is appropriate. Feel it, and feel it fully! Do not shy away from any of your feelings. In fact, it is the suppressing of our emotions that make so many of us sick and stuck in fear, bitterness and resentment. But that does nothing to improve things, not for yourself nor anyone else. So feel your anger, feel your frustration, feel the rage, but do not act on it. Sit with it, go for a run, take a kick-boxing class, do whatever will help move it out of your body, but do not take it out on someone else, not even the person who wronged you, no matter how angry you may be at them. Retaliation will not make you feel better, and will not remedy the situation. Forgiveness is the key. If there is anything in this world that sets us free and heals us above anything else, it is forgiveness.
I realize that forgiveness may not be so easy when someone has hurt you deeply, and sometimes it will take quite a while before you are ready to truly forgive, but that’s okay. Give yourself as much time as you need, but have forgiveness as your ultimate goal, because it is necessary for your healing. Anger, regret and disappointment that is not released, will fester and make you sick, but forgiveness is the ultimate release. When forgiveness is given, it must be given in earnest, though, from a place of love, and not used to manipulate the other person or the situation, as that would not be true forgiveness. True forgiveness comes when the other person or the situation has no grasp on you anymore. When you can put yourself in their shoes, and you don’t need anything from them, when all you want for them is what you want for yourself: happiness and peace of mind, the you have truly forgiven. Then forgiveness can become the true healer it is meant to be, and transform everyone and everything into a higher state of unconditional love. And when we can all reach that state of unconditional love, that is when we know we will have healed and become whole, and that, in truth, is ascension.
Although most of us are not there yet, let’s make a commitment to do what we can to get there. Let’s keep working on ourselves, as well as help each other, so that we can all collectively move into the new earth paradigm together! To get you started (or keep you going) on the journey of forgiveness I wanted to share a couple of exercises with you. The first one is a little exercise from the Kundalini Yoga tradition. I have used it many times myself, and it can be quite powerful to help see the situation from the other person’s perspective, as well as help bring forgiveness into a situation that keeps haunting you. You may not reach full forgiveness the first time you do it, but if you keep practicing and working at it, you will get there in the end. Keep in mind that there may be pain from other situations and experiences that are influencing your ability to forgive this current person and situation, so you may need to keep moving back until you are able to find the root cause of what you are experiencing (which may originate from past lives, too). Anyway, here is the exercise:
(In keeping with Kundalini Yoga traditions, it is important to tune in with the mantra Ong Namo, Guru Dev Namo three times before you do the exercise, click here for instructions on how to do that).
A Meditation for Removing Haunting Thoughts
1. Lower the eyelids until the eyes are only 1/10th open. Start by mentally concentrating at the tip of the nose. Then silently say Wha Hay Guru in the following manner: Wha while you mentally focus on the right eye, Hay while you focus on the left eye, and Guru while you concentrate at the tip of the nose.
2. Remember the encounter or incident that happened to you.
3. Mentally repeat Wha Hay Guru, as in number 1.
4. Visualize and personify the actual feelings of the encounter.
5. Mentally repeat Wha Hay Guru, as in number 1.
6. Reverse the roles in the encounter you are remembering. Become the other person and experience that perspective.
7. Mentally repeat Wha Hay Guru, as in number 1.
8. Forgive the other person and forgive yourself.
9. Mentally repeat Wha Hay Guru, as in number 1.
10. Let go of the incident and release it to the universe. These are 10 steps to peace.
As you can see in the exercise, it encourages you to forgive both the other person and yourself. When forgiving someone, it is important to keep in mind what you may have done to contribute to the situation, as there always takes two to tango. It may not always be immediately apparent what that could be, so you may need to dig a little deeper with that, but if you dig deep enough, you will usually find something.
On the other side of the forgiveness spectrum, is of course those situations when you may have wronged someone else, and you are seeking forgiveness. Whether it is something that happened recently or further back, and you are able to seek forgiveness from them in person, then the best way would be to approach them directly. But if for some reason you are not in contact with that person, or perhaps the other person passed away, you can do another beautiful, little exercise to help you release the guilt and pain you may still be carrying, the Hawaiian Ho’oponopono.
1. Close your eyes and come into a relaxed state.
2. Bring to mind the person that you are seeking forgiveness from.
3. As you see them before you, repeat the following four phrases silently, as if you are speaking them to the person: I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.
4. Repeat these four phrases as many times as you feel you need to until you feel complete.
5. Then forgive yourself and release it to the universe.
I have used both these exercises in my own journey of forgiveness through the years, and I hope you find them helpful too. If you have any questions about any of it, feel free to put them in the comments. And if you are feeling stuck and need some deeper help with your own ascension journey, including forgiveness, I would be happy to support you in any way I can. Please click here to find out how you may be able to work with me, so that you can move into a state of love, light and bliss faster and with more ease than what may be possible on your own.
That’s it from me today. I hope you are able to use forgiveness to uplift your heart and soul to new heights! Until next time…
Sending you so much love and light,